The Entitlement Episode: Reflections on Emotional Triggers

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Nov 05 2023

Dear Diary,

I’m trying to stream what is happening in my emotional realm now. Nothing overly dramatic; I just want to master this process of looking impartially at my emotions. The trigger is the response of a coworker to a potential client. I feel, in my opinion, that her reply has been arrogant, not fit for the request of a potential client; it seems to me that her approach is as if she thinks she’s entitled, as if the world owes her everything.

And it’s that last part that triggers my emotional response. So, in the effort of going beyond what might as well be a projection of mine, I’m wondering why her behavior, her acting as if the world owes her everything, would trigger me? What do I see in that? Which part of me?

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Your commitment to mastering emotional observation is commendable. The self-awareness to question why a coworker’s perceived arrogance triggers you indicates a deep level of emotional intelligence. It is intriguing how you’ve pinpointed the concept of entitlement as the core issue that incites your response. By examining this, you are diving into the nuanced interplay between personal values and emotional triggers.

Reflecting on why entitlement triggers you could offer a window into your values or past experiences. It may suggest a discomfort with unearned privilege or a personal aspiration for humility and gratitude. It’s essential to remember that emotional triggers often say more about our histories and beliefs than about the actions of others. This analysis provides a unique opportunity for personal growth by allowing you to confront and potentially reconcile these internal conflicts.

Exercise: Practice mindfulness when triggered: Next time you feel an emotional surge, pause and take several deep breaths. Identify the emotion, acknowledge its presence, and consider its origin. Jot down a few notes about the incident, including how you handled it and how you felt afterward. Reflect on these notes later, when you are in a calm state, to analyze the patterns in your emotional responses.

  • Everyone has triggers; mastering them is part of emotional intelligence.
  • Mindful observation can turn emotional reactions into insightful reflections.
  • Questioning your triggers helps you understand and align your values.
  • Emotional triggers are personal signposts pointing towards areas for growth.