The Contempt Conundrum: Navigating the Theatre of Hypocrisy

Jul 06 2024

Dear Diary,

Today, during a brief meditation, I found myself feeling a strong contempt toward some people who seem very hypocritical to me. They present themselves as “masters” in various fields without having titles, talents, qualifications, or real expertise, in my opinion, and they make a living selling courses or counseling or whatever.
You can tell from the very words I’m using that I’m very critical and a bit judgmental about these behaviors.
During that meditation, I entertained the thought that everything is perfect as it is and that some people might need interactions with these so-called “masters” (even if the experience involves treachery or disappointment, it would be a lesson nonetheless). These people appear to me as children, simply playing a game I’m no longer interested in.
My rage in this context then seemed to be a reminder that it’s a game I’m no longer interested in and that these are people I no longer wish to engage with.
Why was it necessary to remind me? Perhaps a sort of fear of missing out, or the belief that everyone has something to offer me, which might be true. Nevertheless, it is my responsibility to choose the right people for me at this time. Or something like that.
In any case, that seemed to be the process. If I do not “select” the people who best fit me, then contempt may rise.

Your meditation session appears to have been a deep and reflective journey into your feelings towards perceived hypocrisy in others, especially those who claim expertise without the credentials to back it up. The strong emotions of contempt and judgment that arose during this introspection provide a valuable window into your values and the standards you hold both for yourself and others.

The realization that you view these interactions as a “game” you are no longer interested in playing suggests a significant shift in your perspective. This understanding is crucial as it highlights your growth beyond certain societal dynamics and superficial engagements. Your meditation led to a thought-provoking conclusion: that every person’s journey, including interactions with less genuine “masters,” serves a purpose, potentially as lessons in discernment or disappointment.

Your reflections also point to a broader concern about engagement and belonging, perhaps fearing that distancing yourself from these dynamics might cause you to miss out or overlook potential opportunities. However, the insight that it’s essential to select the right people who align with your current path is a mature and grounded approach to personal and professional relationships.

An exercise to consider is to list the qualities and values you genuinely respect and seek in others, especially in mentors or leaders. Reflect on how well your current circle aligns with these ideals. This can help clarify whom to engage with moving forward and reassure you that your selections are in harmony with your values.

Next journal prompt: After reflecting on the qualities you value in others, consider how this understanding affects your future interactions. Are there specific relationships you need to reevaluate or adjust to better align with your values? How does this selection process make you feel about your social and professional engagements?

It’s essential to consciously select who you engage with based on shared values and authenticity.
Not every societal game is worth playing—choose the ones that align with your growth.
Your emotional reactions can guide your values and decisions.